Wednesday, March 12, 2014
Motherhood turned me socially awkward!
Anyone out there with kids, feel like they all of a sudden don't know how to talk to people anymore. People talk to me and I'm like, yep I'm great (I haven't slept in like 2 years actually, I don't have the time I would like to workout, I clean up poop and pee and fight play with a 2 year old all day, I eat whatever is in our fridge and easiest to make because, I don't have time or energy to think about this anymore, I get dressed and think this would look so much better this way but remember that it will probably just get spit up on, stretched and pulled, on top of it all I have other responsibilities that I try to remember but usually forget) but what parent has this all figured out, clearly not me, but I'm happy, can't really tell you why except I love those kids and they are just so cute! However at the end of the day when I put my kids to sleep, I think, wow, I didn't even ask so and so how they were, I just kind of blankly smiled and tried to not draw attention to myself so that I could disappear and take care of my kids. I like all these so and sos but over years of all this, this is who I am turning into. Any moms have tips?
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I'm only barely a mom, but I've found that having my part-time job has helped me feel more balanced. Obviously it's never a bad thing to have 100% of my time dedicated to my child, but I noticed that when I have several days at home, like during school breaks, I get tunnel vision that makes me so focused on my own little world that I find it extremely difficult to remember to reach out to others. Having something that pulls me out of my little world every other day helps me remember that I can be a mom and a good friend too. And to be honest, I've noticed that tunnel vision in other moms too. Again, not saying that that it is a bad thing, just saying that for the moms who want a social life but won't put forth effort, you can't have your cake and eat it too. You have to make concerted efforts to reach out.
ReplyDeletei used to complain that it was hard to have a conversation with my sister because it seemed like one of her kiddos was always interrupting, because you can't fully understand how "challenging" it is to be a parent until you are one. but i feel you on the lack of sleep, this past month of sleep deprivation has definitely caught up with me. and don't even worry how you are socially! you are still outgoing and everybody is in the same boat of being preoccupied with our own kids that i don't think we even notice! but lets hang out soon, when we're not tired, or maybe just earlier in the day because i think we'll be tired until the kids move out of the house :)
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